February 10, 2020 at 8:33 pm #31524
Jennifer…Internet is as safe as the outside world.
How many times do you meet a person face to face and they are not who they claim to be?
In our days most people lie or distort the truth so you have to take chances and the advantage of the Internet is that it makes it easier for people to get to know one another a bit better before they actually meet in person.
Dating doesn’t have to involve sex, before you date someone you should explain clearly what you want and expect and after first date have another conversation, dating involves many things, main ones are companionship and communication.
Couple decent guys here that you can try to message directly, Marc, Ben and 2 or 3 others can actually hold a conversation, so reach out to people and make friends and have fun.February 10, 2020 at 8:37 pm #31525
Melanie, its hard but not impossible.
You are who you are and kiss and cuddling sounds pretty amazing to me and many other lonely people out there.
Sex is either an added bonus or a substitute for love but its not love, many people have sex and are miserable because they don’t have love and many people have love and are not miserable because they don’t have sex.
Best of luck to you…if you were closer to me I’d ask you out on a date…lolz!February 10, 2020 at 10:18 pm #31526
Thanks for joining in the conversation.
I have been on this dating site now since 2014 – so this is my 6th year. Still not found the right asexual guy to be in a relationship with since then, or since starting this thread a long time ago.
I still run asexual dating groups on Facebook, but even a lot of people in them aren’t that proactive at approaching each other for a potential relationship and even I haven’t found a suitable guy in the UK. I do have wonderful asexual friends though. My bestest asexual friend I met in my own dating group, they are into guys too and my other best friend I met on this site, they are into guys also.
I have found that many people who I like don’t live in the same country as me and I want to continue to live on my own in my flat here, and I have quite niche needs. I adore tongue kissing, cuddling, holding hands, and lots of public displays of affection too, but it seems most asexual guys I come across, or not much into passionate kissing and for sexual guys, it usually needs to lead to sex.
February 11, 2020 at 2:20 am #31528
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I been here for about one year and I have never met anyone.
A few people approached me here and seem interested in a relationship but then they just disappear, which is a little odd.
Most people are also not very honest about what they want or expect and that doesn’t help much either.
Its just been a bit disappointing, would expect to had met at least half a dozen people by now.
There’s always tomorrow I guess but its disappointing that this community is so dead in general.February 12, 2020 at 4:50 am #31529
Thanks for responding. I do agree with you about being honest with the person you’re dating and being straightforward about what you want. That is definitely something I have to work on. I actually need to work on that in other aspects of my life. I need to stop worrying so much about what others think. It’s hard to do that though when you’ve been that way most of your life. In regards to the internet being just as safe, I’d have to disagree slightly on that only because of past experiences. I’ve met a couple people who just flat out lied entirely about who they are. This is why I’m cautious about internet dating sites. I just really want to make friends right now and meet some people. If I find someone to share my life with, great. If not I’m completely fine with that too.February 12, 2020 at 8:45 pm #31530
I was married to someone for 17 years and I didn’t knew the person…people will lie to you online and offline, you just have to pay attention to certain details.
Always be honest, if someone doesn’t love you the way you are they most likely never will and if someone feels lied to or mislead then good luck, resentment is always gonna be present and nothing good will come out of that.
I had a date this Sunday, person was Hyper Sexual, I still went on the date, we just had lunch, talked a bit and we will be friends, that’s it.
I didn’t lie, she didn’t lie and it was actually very nice for a change as mot people out there, internet or not, are bunch of hypocrites and liars.
Always be yourself and eventually someone is gonna love you for that.
My grandmother loves me the way I am…I just need to find a woman that loves me as much as her and I’ll be settled for life…lolz!February 19, 2020 at 2:15 am #31543
It’s shame you live in another country because I hold asexual meetups in my city in the UK, and you would have been welcome to come to one. My meets are not used for dating as such, but more off us are on dating sites than not. Sadly sexuals are more easily up for dating than asexuals. Most of my asexual friends are into guys – guys into guys, so we are not suitable romantic wise. Obviously you are still welcome to one if you visit the UK.
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