Hi everyone, hope you all had a great Thanksgiving.
I apologize first, this is going to be a long message.
I discovered this site close to 11 months ago, I had no idea there was a community or actually a word for what I am. A 45 year old homoromantic asexual. I didn’t even think I was normal, why kind of guy doesn’t want to have sex with their partner but still wants all the attention that a normal couple gets from holding hands, eating with someone, going out with them, watching TV with them but doesn’t want the physical activities because it feels uncomfortable, almost felt forced to act out my enjoyment.
In the time I’ve been on this site, I didn’t get one single response. Although I did finally get one friend request but that person never talked at all so….. My profile information is so detailed and very informative about myself because I have nothing to hide and I’m truly trying to find a homoromantic asexual love. I understand it’s bad enough to find other Aces where you live at but on a site that’s specifically formed for Aces, and the interaction’s even less. I’m so puzzled by that. With so many Aces on this site and this is just my personal opinion but I felt, there’s not a lot of members that’s trying to really connect back. Not sure if it’s the introverted parts of us that’s scared to make the first move or just for some, a sense of I’m ok with being alone all this time so the urgency to find someone can wait a bit longer.
That is, until I realized one important thing, despite so many of us that connect emotionally, rather than physically. There will always be a factor of that physical appearance for a good portion of us. Plain and simple. Majority of us guys and gals (Straight, gay, bi, trans) wants lego or Tetris pieces that fit each other and when that factor is taken out, it all comes down to the appearance of the pieces. Ta dah.
Case in point. On my part, yes, I did send messages out to other homoromantic asexuals on this site, prior to my request for adding them to being a friend. I figured that’s the polite thing to do. But not surprisingly, not even a single polite response back or a simple no thanks or any comments. And yes, they have logged on days later after my message.
That being said, I’ll probably be alone for a long, long time until my botox and filler face falls off. So if anyone wants to add me as a friend, I openly welcome you because I won’t objectify you sexually and I sooooo don’t want to have sex with any of you. Ahahah.
Have a great day. Oh and I apologize again if my words offended anyone by chance, that was not my intention.
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