WHO HERE IS ACTUALLY LOOKING FOR A SERIOUS AND COMMITTED NO SEX RELATIONSHIP?

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  • #30799

    Sandra
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    Hi Cristina, so sorry to hear that.

    Sadly, there are lot of fakers out thee, who have nothing better to do with their time by the looks of it.

    I come across many guys on meetup.com who are in asexual groups, but not actually asexual. Some have bad intentions and looking for sex, whilst others just want to be added to as many groups as possible as they like knowing and meeting different people – on the lookout for a relationship still I expect. Many either don’t know what asexuality is, or choose to ignore it and continue to be in the group. I have made one good asexual friend on there who is biromantic.

    I went on POF briefly this years and spent 4 hours trying to find an asexual guy amongst the sexuals on there, before my account was shut down by ‘accident’ because I said I did not want sex, in my profile, and it was triggers words. But other asexuals profile remained up! However, some guys on there were fed up with time wasters too. They said so in their profiles – whilst others just wanted casual sex from their profile description. It is mostly sexuals on that site, but I thought it may be worth a shot as I know some other asexuals on there too.

    I won’t give up – but there are certain questions you can use to find out if they are likely asexual or not!

    Sandra

    #30806

    Csn05
    Participant

    I would love to – I have the capacity to love deeply – but I’ve convinced myself it will never happen. I’ve only ever met one other asexual in my entire life so I guess the odds are stacked against me. As a result I’ve become fiercely independent but in my soul there is still a tiny flicker of hope!

    #30812

    Mystique
    Participant

    @CsnO5,

    There is always hope. Our opportunities for an asexual relationship is far and few between. Therefore, we must work a little harder to establish this type of relationship. We have to believe and do the work it takes to find an asexual partner. Don’t give up. We are different and not of this sexual world. We are scattered throughout the world. It’s evident that I must go to them or they come to me. It’s not as easy as establishing a heterosexual relationship. Our approach must be new, fresh and creative.

    #30813

    Mystique
    Participant

    Remember sex sells. We are in a non-profit chasm. Therefore, our endeavors must be in self-supporting activities in order to build prosperous asexual relationships. And we must do it on our own dime.

    #30839

    Nicole
    Participant

    I am! I’d like to find an asexual/ace man that I am compatible with to share life with. From my limited experience, it seems like the ace community is largely women, so I’m hoping I can find a hetero-romantic partner here 🙂

    #30939

    Joy
    Participant

    This is exactly what I’m looking for. I got married long before I realized I was asexual. Over the years, I would often think to myself, “I think I must be asexual,” but I didn’t know that that was an actual “thing” until some years ago. My life made so much more sense when I finally figured that out! LOL I would also often fantasize about having a life-long companion who didn’t want or need sex. In my mind, that was ideal. Now that I’m divorced, I’m hoping that I will one day find that person, although I’m not sure how likely that is, especially at my age (53). To be honest, I’d much rather be alone for the rest of my life than be in another relationship where sex was considered important. I refuse to feel like being in a relationship is an absolute necessity for me. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, then I’ll embrace my life as it is and focus on other things.

    #30942

    Sandra
    Participant

    Hi Mystique

    I totally agree that we have to work much harder to find an asexual partner and to establish and maintain a relationship. It’s so true that either you or the other person must want to move, or it won’t work. And the relationship must be constantly worked on to grow together and maintained.

    Asexuals love through an emotional connection, so emotional needs I think are even higher in an asexual relationship than the heteronormative ones. When sexuals get upset wth each other, it often ends in sex and make up. Sex keeps them talking and after one another, it gives them a strong reason they have to meet with each other. In the case of asexuals, without sex being involved, this need to be seek someone out for a relationship, pursue them, work hard on getting a possible relationship and to maintain it, is far less in my observation. Asexuals seem less bothered about being with someone, as sex is not involved and therefore many conversations tail off on this asexual dating site and others.

    That is why I started this thread as although many people say they want a relationship, I don’t see many actually taking the action to get a real one offline. This saddens me. It should not be the case. But proves that sex is a main driving force in being in a human relationship – aside from the friendship type of relationship. I know I love my single life, but I also feel I intuitively have a younger asexual foreign soulmate, who I believe is Indian, in the least foreign. I make the first move a lot, but I don’t want me to be doing all the work to get and maintain a relationship though, it has to be an equal dual effort. I had one-sided friendships in the past, with people who did not value my worth and I know I am damn well worth my value. I don’t want to go down that road ever again.

    I am a non-mover, because I am so super happy where I live, so trying to find someone who will move to live near me but not with me, is super tough. Especially as I like younger foreign guys and live in the UK.

    I have been on here since 2014 looking for my younger foreign asexual soulmate and still not found him yet. I won’t give up though. I will do whatever it takes to be with the right guy for me. I am busy working on mown life, my career and finances particular this year, and hopefully once that is sorted and on track, mr asexual right will show up for me. I think I had some near misses and red herrings, so I must be getting closer to finding him. Thankfully I have wonderful asexual guy friends to chat to and spend time with in the meantime, and they will always be in my life now, as they are awesome.

    Sandra

    #30943

    Sandra
    Participant

    Hi Joy

    Lovely to see you here and have you back in my Facebook group xx

    It’s good you are focusing on other things.

    I don’t want sex in a relationship wither, I am done this that. Too much like hard work when you don’t like it and personally sex repulsed these days for me – fine and happy for others to go at it like bunnies. I still like passionate kissing though with my clothes on, so that is tough, and why I still crave a romantic relationship. I think you can be passionate without having sex itself, if you want to be and like that. I find less asexuals are like me in this way, so that makes it harder to find someone suitable for me.

    Sandra

    #30955

    Emily
    Participant

    Hi, I’ll bring this thread back from the dead I guess. If any random readers interested enough in women see this, please check out my profile. I’m looking to find someone of any gender with a similar goal of raising non-billogical children with me and having a serious committed relationship with no sex. I’m on the aromantic spectrum so being “attracted” to me, and me to you, isn’t the priority. The priority is wanting to choose to try to form a friendship where we might end up with a lot of commitment and practical logistics that mean we’re certainly “together”.

    #30956

    Stephanie
    Participant

    I am.

    #30957

    Stephanie
    Participant

    (Although I’m not looking to be a parent …..)

    #30958

    J Fernando Estrada
    Participant

    I am,and I’m hoping to find something like that.

    #30959

    J Fernando Estrada
    Participant

    I am,and I’m hoping to find something like that..

    #30960

    Scription
    Participant

    I am interested. I live in the North of England, so anyone between 25 – 50 who also lives here can hit me up. 🙂

    #30965

    Elizaveta Limanova
    Participant

    I am looking for an asexual relationship. I’m going to be thirty in May. I live in Millburn, New Jersey

    #30966

    Elizaveta Limanova
    Participant

    I am looking for an asexual relationship. I’m going to be thirty in May. I live in Millburn, New Jersey

    #30970

    Sandra
    Participant

    Just to let you know, I finally found a guy who can be with me without sex and now in a happy, sex free relationship. We have tons in common, feel like we have known each other for years, and get along like a house on fire. He is a cute, young, British guy 23, 24 next month,which is the age I wanted, ( he is also the same star sign as me), and almost the same height too. I met him at my friend’s 50th Birthday party – I am significantly younger than my friend, but older in birth certificate age than my partner. I am an asexual cougar, not sexual cougar. Mindset/lifestyle, we are pretty similar/the same. He lives locally to me and we love to spend hours on video chat and seeing each other.

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