March 10, 2018 at 11:19 am #29564
Yes.March 11, 2018 at 3:51 am #29572
I’m not ACTIVE yet, because I’m a newbie, but almost 51. Most of the time I feel like an eight year old!March 12, 2018 at 3:48 pm #29590
Nearly 50 over here.
Dated on and off for years. Finally stopped, because EVENTUALLY, every relationship was going to ultimately lead to the bedroom, and I always broke it off before it got there.
About a year ago, tried disclosing the asexuality to someone before we even met. He said it wasn’t a deal-breaker, so I met him for coffee.
To say it went poorly was an understatement. He thought he was clever by having “researched” me online to learn my place of business. He thought it would be amusing because he made up his very own joke beginning with, “How does an asexual rape someone?” I don’t know the punchline. I walked out before he got there.
Decided that “alone” isn’t “lonely” unless that’s what you make it. 🙂March 16, 2018 at 2:42 pm #29634
That guy doesn’t sound like he was trying to be amusing, he sounds like a pervert and possibly a stalker. Hope you are safe.March 17, 2018 at 3:04 am #29639
I’ll be 55 soon.March 17, 2018 at 3:50 pm #29647
Thanks, Lori. Yeah, I unloaded him pretty quick.March 30, 2018 at 1:33 pm #29749
I’m 58 but have been away from this site for awhile. Nice to be back!April 4, 2018 at 5:04 am #29769
I am 53 male and not on enoughApril 4, 2018 at 6:20 pm #29770
I am 58 and live in UK. I am not often on here due to a lack of English people. I am not able to travel to USA !April 5, 2018 at 9:32 pm #29774
I’m 55 and live in Switzerland.April 7, 2018 at 3:01 pm #29780
I was beginningredients to think the same thing…Hello…my name is Samantha…April 11, 2018 at 3:03 pm #29802
45 in October, live in Sweden. Have been a member for a few years but was never very active before, mainly because nothing happened here back then.
I’ve been a member of several ace Facebook groups for a few years, but aside from the age issue, which is even greater there, I think, there is way too much bickering, and I will happily take a more active part here instead 🙂April 11, 2018 at 10:27 pm #29804
Hi, I’m not 45 or older, but most of my friendships and relationships are with people older than I, so I’m hoping you won’t mind if I join the discussion.
I do have a theory about why there are so many younger people on here. It’s much more accepted with the younger generation that they don’t have to fit into a box regarding their sexuality or gender, whereas with the older generations, there’s much more stigma and being unable to accept it.
For example – if I were older, it would probably be more difficult, and if I were younger it would probably be easier. Seems like it’s just not such a big deal with younger people.
I’m sure you’ve all heard the studies that show that millenials in general aren’t that interested in sex at all. Teen pregnancy has gone way down here in the US for that very reason.
I very much appreciate this and the openness of the younger generations!April 12, 2018 at 1:56 am #29806April 12, 2018 at 1:56 am #29807
Recently turned 55.
Do I get a senior discount now?April 12, 2018 at 2:50 am #29809
Excellent points, Ana. Welcome to this discussion. You’re right, there is much more stigma with older generations than there is among Millennials, and I too appreciate the latter’s openness. I’m 61. I am so deep in the ace closet that even when recently, in two separate discussions with close friends, one with a Boomer (63) and one a Millennial (34), both women expressed openness and tolerance of asexuality, I still couldn’t reveal myself as an ace to them. We weren’t even discussing sexuality or asexuality as topics; they both just blurted it out. Both are very progressive, which helps. Maybe in time I will overcome my fears and inhibitions and test the waters with them, but right now I’m still hesitant.April 16, 2018 at 5:38 pm #29826
Hello! I’m 53 and just figured out I’m ACE about a year ago!April 17, 2018 at 2:06 am #29831
I’m 53. I just found out last year that something called asexuality existed! I just thought I had a non-existent sex drive and that maybe my hormones were messed up. I’m a heteroromantic ace though so I am hoping that someday I will meet another ace that enjoys cuddling.June 13, 2018 at 8:27 pm #30214
I’m 48 and just joined. Still trying to figure out the site and see if there’s any way to search for people in your area. I’m in VT and just learned ACE was even a thing. I always assumed I was broken!
June 14, 2018 at 2:34 am #30216
- This reply was modified 1 year, 8 months ago by Kathy.
I am 52 and just figuring it out. Kathy like you I thought I was broken.
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