Why Does Initial Enthusiasm Fades After Joining

[Aux]

That’s an interesting theory. If it’s true then I’m quite the superior asshole.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Thanks for your advice. It seems you have solution to all problems.

[Aux]

Flutteryby, the relationship my partner and I share is unique, but none of us in this forum are strangers to uniqueness. We do not “ignore” each other, we simply do not crave as much attention/interaction as most people. It is established we are introverts after all.

My partner and I respect that the other has ambitions and fully supports these dreams. We are in fact happy by ourselves, but the time we spend together enrich our lives. If I wanted to have a relationship for show, I would not have waited 22 years for the right person to share my life with.

As for “…what’s the point of your relationship then?” I don’t believe I can explain this to someone who doesn’t see the value in friendship, as you expressed in the non-binary forum. You’ll just have to trust me when I say I get a multitude of things out of it.

[Anonymous]

I thought of making a “What thoughts cross your mind when you read the previous poster’s profile” thread, but I thought no one would respond to it. 😛

Maybe a “What’s your ideal relationship?” thread would be more appropriate though since this thread has alot of those sentiments..

EDIT: Something is funky with the reply system. This should have been to Guarav’s comment.

subEDIT: FB, I am also bothered to no end by this protocol. Thankfully it does not affect my conscious being.

[Aux]

And yet some advice is unwarranted and incorrect. Though I agree that desperation is not appealing, I certainly have not found any evidence that Guarauv is being dramatic or desperate.

And here is some more unwarranted advice: if one must say “no offense” then it most certainly is offensive.

[Aux]

Yura, I think the first one is more interesting and interactive. Why not make both though?

[Anonymous]

Thanks Aux but here we should all learn to live with the wisdom that is forced upon us. After all she has “superior aura”

[Anonymous]

I made the same mistake. I realise that if you click the reply button on the time and date stamp above the poster, it replies to the poster.

I think it is a good idea to start the thread but I guess people should be filling “looking for” section in their profiles.

[Aux]

Normally I’d have ignored it, but I’ve got a pesky habit of getting defensive for other people’s sake. But, you’re right. There’s no point fighting the tide.

[Anonymous]

-isn’t getting that impression- But ohh well… Flutterby, you’re an extrovert and you know it but denial seems to give you butterflies. 😛 You couldn’t survive without pushing your wisdom on to the unsuspecting!

[Anonymous]

May God be with whoever chooses live with you. I am amazed at the authenticity you judge people here merely by reading few lines about them.

[Aux]

Hey, guys I’m sorry for opening Pandora’s box. I didn’t realize what we were dealing with until it was too late.

Anyway, I’ve learned my lesson and will no longer engage with a disturbance.

[Anonymous]

I have just commented on one of her posts but I agree the best is to avoid. I think we should close this tread anyway we shared good amount of experience. Aux don’t forget the disturbance may affect other threads as well.

[Aux]

Oh I’m well aware, haha. Though it is easily ignored and I’m not concerned. It kind of saddens me that this topic might be closed since I’ve found other aces I like talking too. For whatever reason I haven’t really concerned myself with ace interaction/friendship before. I think I was simply disinterested. But I find you guys refreshing. Anyway, feel free to send me private messages or engage me in other forum threads :]

[Anonymous]

Aux who is here to stop us from communicating. There is no stop button for the thread anyway. I think I was wrong in suggesting that. I take it back. Let the fun continue. Open messages encourages others to interact too. I have learnt so much from people here. I keep refreshing my screen every now an then to see new posts (except few). I feel connected.

[Anonymous]

Drink from the well of my soul then, I enjoy your being here too. And you as well Guarav. 🙂

[Aux]

Haha thanks Yura.

And Guarav, I do think keeping up correspondence forum correspondence is the best way to show people that there are at least some active users lol.

I have a strange sense of kinship with you guys. I rarely open up, and I’m amazed how much I’ve over-shared about myself. I’m usually closed up like a clam. Despite everything, this site/forum feels like a safe place. Which is something I didn’t realize I experienced the absence of.

[Anonymous]

Please group do not get silent because of some disturbance. I learnt a new term today – “grey romantic” never knew I am one. Did not know there was a term for it. Cannot imagine myself being romantic but I am certainly affectionate and believe and value close friendships.

[Aux]

You know, grey romantic is a pretty good descriptor of what I am too. I assumed I was aromantic but my current situation proves otherwise.

Hey, have you guys ever heard of “ace rings”? I just found out about them. Apparently if you wear a black band on the middle finger of your right hand, it’s a subtle announcement that you’re ace. I think that’s pretty cool. I’m considering doing it.

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