I understand what you’re saying Lenka, but I’m just saying that I would if I happened to be in that situation. I’ve read a few other posts of yours, and I understand that marriage isn’t the same for you as it is in my perspective. For me marriage is a very sacred thing. While I won’t intentionally marry a sexual person, people can change; I believe you must understand this to be married. As long as they don’t change in a way that is contrary to your personal beliefs (not preferences), then one should try to support their partner as best they can.
From what I understand of sexual people, it is hard for them to live without it completely. So, if my partner developed an increased libido it may be very difficult for him to abstain from adultery. As his life partner, I should put aside my personal preferences to accomodate him, in my opinion. And, for myself personally that is ok – I don’t fear mating, only despise it (partially unjustly even, I realize). What is really to be despised is how society has warped it through pornography, and other methods. Sex has just become another form of mind control. Aside from despising it, I have no desire for it either; there may be a causal relationship there, I don’t know. But, to give in to my husband would just be like eating shrimp (I dislike shrimp) for me… I can fake a smile well enough if I don’t have to do it that often. 😉 What’s most important is that I’d be doing it for someone I love, and I’m sure they would appreciate my efforts. I mean, they’d better. xD But, I will say it again, I will not knowingly marry a sexual person!!
Life advice here: Make sacrifices only after you are married (or in a committed relationship), Never before.
And, a final point, there are some ‘sexual’ things I wouldn’t put up with. Things that go beyond dislike to being things that I feel are wrong (in whatever form), are not things I would compromise. I just wanted to make sure that was clear.
Misha Anastasia 3 weeks, 2 days ago.
