Asexual passion without sex,,people who are still wanting the hugs , kisses , and romance without intercourse.
What are your limits?
November 14, 2014 at 4:20 am #3955JohnParticipant
I’ve been curious how common grays like me are.
Just wondering what are all of your limits when it comes to “stimulated love”
How far is everybody comfortable with?November 17, 2014 at 4:42 pm #3981LenkaParticipant
Hugs and cuddling with clothes on, small kisses (no tongue).December 20, 2014 at 2:17 pm #4125AniParticipant
I am unsure. Cuddling and kissing is for sure not a problem, touches aren’t neither (not sure about intimate touching but I think it wouldn’t be a problem) ; as for real sex it may be possible only with someone I’m really in love with, but I am unsure. My fears for anything sexual are rooted quite deeply, but maybe with the right person those walls could be broken down. I’m unsure. Let’s say for now that touching, kisses and cuddling are definitely OK ; anything else is unsure.February 12, 2015 at 4:26 pm #4275AnonymousInactive
Anything that doesn’t involve the reproductive organs I’m ok with; if by some chance I end up married to a sexual person (unknowingly), I’d put up with mating but that’s pretty much it (I believe in marriage you sometimes have to make sacrifices). I hope I never have to face that decision though.February 14, 2015 at 7:45 pm #4288LenkaParticipant
Hi Yura, I don´t think you should put up with sex for a long time if you do not want to have sex. Sexuals want more than just someone who tolerates sex, they want to feel desired sexually, they want someone who is into sex, who wants to try new things… It genuinely scares me. I surely can´t tolerate any form of sex, I would start to hate my partner for hurting me so horrible way.February 15, 2015 at 5:52 pm #4294AnonymousInactive
I understand what you’re saying Lenka, but I’m just saying that I would if I happened to be in that situation. I’ve read a few other posts of yours, and I understand that marriage isn’t the same for you as it is in my perspective. For me marriage is a very sacred thing. While I won’t intentionally marry a sexual person, people can change; I believe you must understand this to be married. As long as they don’t change in a way that is contrary to your personal beliefs (not preferences), then one should try to support their partner as best they can.
From what I understand of sexual people, it is hard for them to live without it completely. So, if my partner developed an increased libido it may be very difficult for him to abstain from adultery. As his life partner, I should put aside my personal preferences to accomodate him, in my opinion. And, for myself personally that is ok – I don’t fear mating, only despise it (partially unjustly even, I realize). What is really to be despised is how society has warped it through pornography, and other methods. Sex has just become another form of mind control. Aside from despising it, I have no desire for it either; there may be a causal relationship there, I don’t know. But, to give in to my husband would just be like eating shrimp (I dislike shrimp) for me… I can fake a smile well enough if I don’t have to do it that often. 😉 What’s most important is that I’d be doing it for someone I love, and I’m sure they would appreciate my efforts. I mean, they’d better. xD But, I will say it again, I will not knowingly marry a sexual person!!
Life advice here: Make sacrifices only after you are married (or in a committed relationship), Never before.
And, a final point, there are some ‘sexual’ things I wouldn’t put up with. Things that go beyond dislike to being things that I feel are wrong (in whatever form), are not things I would compromise. I just wanted to make sure that was clear.April 16, 2015 at 5:07 pm #26036KimSpectator
Intercourse is a NO for me.
I love kissing and cuddling.( I’ll be the little spoon.)
I would fall in love with a master of massages, since I suffer from back pain due to my job.
I would rather avoid external sexuAl play.
But like Yura said, if I was in a long term committed relAtionship or married and my partner wanted to try something new, I would consider it.
But intercourse will always be a NO.February 26, 2018 at 4:06 am #29489JeanetteSpectator
I agree with Kim. Intercourse is a definate no but I am ok with anything that doesn’t involve and sort of penetration be it Intercourse or even fingers.
I am a tactile person though and I do enjoy cuddling xxJanuary 21, 2019 at 4:05 pm #30849Jason TillmanSpectator
I have a Low sex drive but everything up to intercourse can be okay if I’m in the mood and feel comfortable with the person I’m with.March 14, 2019 at 1:13 am #30932LynnSpectator
I love cuddling and kissing; I’m okay with doing things to a partner (if I really like and trust them) but I preferably (very preferably) want nothing sexual being done to me.September 1, 2019 at 7:16 pm #31208AlSpectator
I’m on the same page as Lynn. I don’t prefer performing any acts on a partner, but if we are together I don’t want anything done to me. If I end up with someone, I could do sexual things with them as long as they know that I don’t want me focused on at all. I wouldn’t love the situation but if I loved a person, I could compromise.October 17, 2019 at 4:07 pm #31269Abby LongSpectator
I’m pretty much a no go with everything sexual. I like to cuddle, hold hands and sit close. That’s about it.February 6, 2020 at 1:29 am #31511Jazmine RoseSpectator
I’m semi-asexual, so I’m okay with most things leading up to sex – even touching and kissing intimate parts, particularly since I like to feel desired and lusted after. However, once actual penetration starts, I enjoy it only for a limited period of time and lose interest – and want to revert to cuddling and touching.February 6, 2020 at 9:30 am #31512Pedro FrazaoSpectator
Jazmine, I believe the feeling desired, sexually or not, is the best part of the relationship.
The desire to kiss, to hug, to tease, to be together, to miss the other person.
Everyone is a little different but its nice to feel wanted, whehter or not sex is involved.March 13, 2020 at 1:16 am #31591Misha AnastasiaSpectator
I love cuddling, hugging, holding hands, anything intimate that ISN’T sex. Closed mouth kisses on the lips are fine but I prefer kisses elsewhere. I’m a very affectionate person but I just don’t get what’s so great about tongue kissing let alone actual sex?
I sort of get the liking attention thing. I like to be admired but not desired. Once someone starts showing signs of wanting me physically I get uncomfortable.
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