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Gray Aces
Public Group active 2 weeks, 5 days agoThis is a group for all those who identify as being Gray-A, Gray Asexual, or Graysexual. Also including Demisexual, Semisexual, and all those who fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. Because we are just that ambiguous. For more information on being Gray-A, please visit the following website.
It's Oh So Quiet Hello!
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I browsed numerous profiles and I think I’ve never found a place before with so many kind, interesting people I can relate to so much!
What’s sad is that I completely suck at maintaining friendships with real life friends, when they are not around, so it seems really dramatic to me that we live so far from each other:/ I’d love to meet every single one of you:D
Cheers!Good luck with that!
I sort of had that, without knowing it.
When I first moved to Thailand I was 58 but my best friend for a year was a handsome 22 yr old police lieutenant who had asked me to give him private English lessons. I said I’d exchange English lessons for Thai lessons and his driving me to the best birding spots in the province, including Khao Yai National Park.All my life I have been unable to tell if someone was good looking and relied on my friends and the reactions of others to know. People told me he is gorgeous, but it meant nothing to me.
Because of his youth he was able to keep up with me on four-hour hikes through the jungle and climbing mountains, and he at least hid his fear while I was photographing snakes and wild elephants. He also quickly learned the names of my major target birds and would say things like “Pied Hornbill at 10 o’clock” to alert me.
His eyesight is sharper than mine, so he increased my ability to locate tiny birds in low jungle light. I would speak to him in Thai and he’d answer in English. He was also hilarious, constantly commenting on current news and making smart remarks and we’d yuk it up. Also, his taste in music was American and the same as mine.
I didn’t know at the time that I was asexual and partially transmale so we were like best male friends, playing football (soccer) for hours each day until the moon came up, then discussing constellations and stars. Strangely, most Thai seem to know all their names.
Sometimes people at work would try to tease me about having sex with him and I’d say, “GROSS! Do you mind?? I’m eating.” People would look shocked and puzzled, then sceptical, but it seemed normal to me.
Some of the male European teachers even told me he could have different ideas about ME, but I’d laugh it off, saying, “Are you KIDDING ME? I’m older than his GRANDMOTHER!”He’d bring me along on short trips with his family and hang with friends and if anyone wondered about our relationship, they didn’t say anything in my hearing.
When I moved to another part of Thailand, we kept in touch by Skype, and he still messages and Skypes on occasion, but I prefer having a playmate around. I was spoiled having a male companion in the dangerous areas I frequent while doing extreme bird photography, and I was mugged while birding alone at a remote beach a few months ago.
I used to say that I wished there was another category for having a partner besides “spouse” so we could just play together and hang out. Perhaps an asexual partner would meet that need.
But those men must be rare.
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