[Meadow Rain]

I like what you said and would like to add safe sex also does not exist because emotionally and psychologically and mentally it can be damaging if not with the right person under the right circumstances. Also what I consider a real asexual are people who know they do not like sex, most have tried it or put up with it but they know. Not sure if the group called,’Fear of sex and intimacy’, with its quote ,’fear is the enemy of love’, (many asexuals love) should even be considered an asexual group. I don’t want anyone mistaken it and try to experiment with or harass any members because they are not sure they don’t want it. Asexuals know and should be respected when they say it.

[Ani]

I think, assuming one wants to have sex, safe sex would for sure require more than one contraceptive. Neither the contraceptive pill nor condoms are 100% sure, there is a 1-2 % chance of failure. OK, that may sound minimal, but just imagine you’re in that 1 or 2% who ends up pregnant or with a STD while not even having had “unsafe” sex…

Personally, as a demisexual, I wouldn’t mind if I wouldn’t ever have sex. I think if it’d ever happen, it’d be just to please the future girlfriend (assuming there would be one) and only if I would feel that, because of sex fears, it wouldn’t emotionally scar me.
But even if all of that is not taken into account, I would insist on her taking the pill + me using a condom or being sterilised. I would not like to rely on one method of avoiding pregnancies, so I think both partners better play safe. If any sex would happen, that is, and the occurance of sex to me is something that doesn’t keep me awake at night. I’m fine without it, and it’s not on my bucket list.

I don’t know about percentages of people who have been engaging in sex against their will due to peer pressure, pressure from their partner, or being afraid to say “no”, or rape, … But I’d be surprised too if the percentage wouldn’t be higher than the statistic you named. Which is horrible. NOBODY has the right to decide what happens with your body, except you yourself. Any other person has to respect your personal boundaries and not even try to move those boundaries. Your body, your temple. I fear too that many people (an overwhelming majority of them male, a tiny minority female) however don’t respect those boundaries due to selfishness and lack of respect for the other person, or simply because they lack the capability of understanding that not everyone is a sexual person.

[Meadow Rain]

There are also people out there that are nymphomaniacs or something close to it that harass others and use the media to confirm what they are pressuring people to do. Some people will do it with almost any one. I was harassed by a popular guy who said that he does it casually with others that also have multiple partners, so I said, sounded undesirable before, now just creepy. I fell like people like that are helping to spread disease with or without condoms. Besides sex people who are doing BJs do this without protection most have not even heard of a BJ condom.
I only found out about it when training to be on a crisis hotline, a lady from the organization used to go out to give mouth condoms to prostitutes…so that they don’t die on the streets like dogs from disease.

[Joshua Kim]

… I feel like there is a lot of assumptions and numbers being thrown around. Not that i am saying that those are wrong… but to “demonize” safe sex and correlating that to rape… i don’t get. I mean sure there are men out there who are “always” after sex, but you can’t go around over generalizing… well, you can, but it just feeds the irrational. But on the other hand, i have not experienced what most women go through when it comes to guys, but i can sympathize and help the best i can.

Again, Ani is the one with a lot of valid points here. Ani seems like they know what they are talking about and tries to make things more level instead of a “high-low” type of perception…

[Lenka]

I have borderline personality disorder, I can´t think in other way than “high-low” type of perception.

[Tt]

My opinion on this whole safe sex thing is it’s bull shit. It is medically proven that you can use condoms all you want and there are still STD you can get. People are being lied to when the medicals say oh just u use a condoms. Honestly there is no safe sex, and we are not talking about rape here we are talking about the contract of diseases. It is a known fact that many std are able to be given even with protection. Safe sex died along time ago when people always thought it wouldn’t happen to them didn’t use full protection, and now std s are out of control again. Now as for the physical safe sex discussion my goodness that’s opening up a whole nother can of worms

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