Some of the groups here I'd like to question.

[ArchOpal]

Before I say anything else I’d just like to note that I do not wish to do anything to the groups I will mention, I’m just a little bit confused as to why they’re here and am possibly looking for some sort of clarification.

https://www.asexualitic.com/groups/men-who-are-sexually-confused/
https://www.asexualitic.com/groups/gay-guys/
So what I understand from both of these that they’re for Homosexuals (from what I could find out anyway) so shouldn’t these be on a homosexual site?

https://www.asexualitic.com/groups/kinky-aces/
“Kinky – involving or given to unusual sexual behavior.” isn’t this a contradiction even if it doesn’t involve sex?

https://www.asexualitic.com/groups/bdsm/
https://www.asexualitic.com/groups/bondage/
for anyone who doesn’t know “BDSM is an overlapping abbreviation of Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM)”.
These two groups are somewhat more or less based around the same thing (I assume) and it’s because of erotic reasons which lies under having a sexual fetish?

https://www.asexualitic.com/groups/mindsex/
I can’t really say if this has anything to do with a fetish or not and apparently their site isn’t safe to visit for me so umm….yeah.

https://www.asexualitic.com/groups/requiessexual-162985156/
There’s a description to what a “requiessexual” is but I kind of summed it up to “people being bored of sex for some reason”.
Does this count as Asexual or probably just someone who just wants a break from sex? I don’t get it.

I’m open to anyone’s views on any of these, there are a few more that seemed odd to me but these are really the main ones that I’m confused about as to how they relate to Asexuality and not some other sort of sexuality that involves sexual attraction.
I’m not lashing out at anyone I’m just curious.

[danny]

Hi you make an interesting point,however asexuality is a broad and open church and I think thats a good thing.For my part in my earlier life,sex was a disaster.I thought it would come right eventually but it never did.I first heard about asexuality years ago when I read an article in the paper about the fetish/fantasy roleplay scene in London,in those days there was nothing’ in 80’s to my knowledge’about asexuality.There were men and women who were lost and latched onto the spanking and bondage scene who had no interest in sex.I myself like roleplay games,but sex dosent work for me.Im just pleased there is a scene now because in the past there was nothing,just a lot of lost worried people.

Danny.

[ArchOpal]

Most of my confusion still comes from these groups showing an interest in what stimulates them sexually and most definitions I’ve found about Asexual’s points out to being “a person who is not interested in or does not desire sexual activity” or “sexual feelings”. I guess this is just something I find difficult to get my head around when I meet “Asexuals” that contradict these definitions.
You have an interesting story though that made me think more on how people would take part in BDSM/bondage without the sexual desire to do so, I have read up on something like that but I think what I read about was more to do with stress relief.

Thanks for taking the time to read and reply to my post though Danny. (:

[danny]

Stress relief yes thats pretty close you can sometimes have a slight mental buzz after non sexual kinky role play,I suppose its a vague shadow of sex,without technically being physical sex. Morressey one of the most famous aces has a thing about being spanked with a slipper’maybe a kink learned from school perhalps?and he is totally asexual.Its not everyone’s cup of tea though,its just nice the asexual community is a broad church.

Good luck Danny.

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