Has anyone ever met anyone on here?

[Graham]

I hadn’t been on here for a few years. I recently updated my profile.
I am on asexualcupid, but it is so expensive to join. I sent one of those quick messages that say “I like your profile” and got one back.
I found the same person on here and sent a friend request and a message, and I know they have been seen, but I have been completely ignored. It’s so downhearting.

[Graham]

I hadn’t been on here for a few years. I recently updated my profile.
I am on asexualcupid, but it is so expensive to join. I sent one of those quick messages that say “I like your profile” and got one back.
I found the same person on here and sent a friend request and a message, and I know they have been seen, but I have been completely ignored. It’s so downhearting.

[Georgy]

I am new on here too. Nervous and a bit wary. Glad that some of you have made some friends, and even partners.

[Ezzy]

I’ve been a member for quite a few months without a friend request or a single message 🤔 I became a full member and have tried to be more active on the site but my expectations haven’t improved.
I’m pretty much convinced my age is working against me – on the other few asexual sites I joined 80% of the people were under 30 years old so I appreciate I won’t get flooded with notifications.

[Peter]

Ezzy, have you tried initiating the conversation? or making the friend request?

[Ezzy]

Hey Peter, that’s such a good point.
I think as I’ve only tried regular online dating sites I’ve always waited for people to approach me then I felt confident & comfortable in the fact that they ‘liked’ me.
It genuinely never occurred to me that I could say hello first on here – I guess old habits die hard.

[Peter]

I tend to get my messages ignored after a while, but I guess it’s all part of the game.

[Ezzy]

I’m not sure to be honest, I wonder if asexual people tend to be a little more careful or cautious?
I don’t want to generalise as we’re obviously all very different.
It’s like the tortoise & the hare.
On regular dating sites potential mates run at 100 miles an hour; on here its slower than a gentle crawl 🙈 somewhere in between would be wonderful.

[DanM86]

Nope. So far this feels like another let-down, even when I openly send out friend requests reaching out to other Aces in my area. New Orleans is not a hotspot for Aces, although it may be a hotspot for the LGBT community.

[Georgy]

I do feel more relaxed here than on regular dating sites. But I agree with Ezzy’s words – careful and cautious..guess you never know who’s out there..but it’s all a risk..you’d think London would be a bit more proactive

[Sammie]

I have been on here since the early days and had lots of messages going nowhere. Having mental health and anxiety issues, it seemed that it would always be that way, and using other dating sites was more tedious as it seemed everyone wanted sex.

But alas, I found my partner on here a couple of months ago, after years of searching, and lots of dead ends. Definitely worth the search, and couldn’t be happier.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think there are very many people actually looking to meet anyone on here. Seems like a lot of fake profiles

[Sandra]

I am looking for a serious relationship and I’ve been here for over 5 years now and I still haven’t met the right asexual guy for me. Many people on here are not proactive enough or not that bothered about a relationship, sadly.

• This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by Sandra.

[Thia]

I think that most normal relationships are quite sex based. And when you dont have that drive you are able to concentrate on other stuff and be content with life not to have someone necessary in it.

And then to find a person close to you with asexual orientation to even have any kind of relationship is almost 0% so it’s not like we dont wish a partner but to find one close enough and to find a person that is pleasing to your personality and look… But to everyone good look i wish for everyone to find the special one…

[rm]

Most people on this site are not paying members and they are only lurking. Also ,asexual women have to be careful because there are more ace women probably sharing attention with one ace man

[Kate]

This guy comes back with a different profile every so often. He’s also on another asexual app and gets hostile if you don’t respond how he wants you to. He usually pretends he’s a cat. Now, I understand he might be on a spectrum so give him the benefit of the doubt and try and let him down lightly.

We all need to be kind in this world, even if we behave in a different way. I usually block him straight away if I know it’s him, he’s not my type.

I’m also currently being harassed by someone on here. I won’t tell you the extent of what he has been up to as he’s probably going to read this, completely terrifying some of his messages and admin are non-existent. He will get a kick out of reading this for sure.

No means no unless you’re called Denis Matiz and from Warwickshire.

Anyone else experienced the same from him?

• This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by Kate.
• This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by Kate.

[Dan]

I did meet Zaida here, a Guatemalan woman here who was half my age. We grew emotionally very close and fell in love. We overcame all age gap and cultural barriers. We chatted by email, text, phone, and Skype nearly every day for around four years. I finally felt loved, understood, cared for, and validated, and she felt the same from me. We were readying to meet in person in each other’s countries, when unexpectedly, she died of cancer in 2015. That devastated me and I still feel it deeply to this day. I am unable to similarly meet another, either here or on Asexual Cupid. The ace life is frustrating and exceedingly lonely.

• This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by Dan.

[S Anthony]

I will remain optimistic that there are some interesting and reasonably accessible people on the site. 🙂 We shall see ( i guess)

[Giorgos_124]

Hello!

I have met someone from here, although we ended up talking on Facebook for the first time.

We were on a relationship for a few months and it was really nice.

It is very difficult to find an asexual partner, especially in Greece…

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