I just want to chime in on this line”
“I’m also aging (37) and running out of time to find myself and someone else.”
I’m 39. I’ve been with my Someone for a little over a year now. Before my Someone, I had ten years of being happily single. It’s not too late. It’s not “running out of time”. There are chances to find your Someone as long as there is breath in you, and allowing yourself to think that there is a count-down to it being “all over” for you is a great way to scare potential Someones off. Meet ladies. Be friends with ladies. Put yourself out there in a respectful manner and you’ve got a better chance of meeting the women you can love.
I say “women” because 1) you’ve said you’re looking for a woman and 2) I don’t believe in One True Love. I believe in Many True Possibilities.