Love Languages

[Gillian]

Hi All,

I was recently thinking about love languages and how they aren’t inherently sexual but could be. I am interested to know if anyone has experienced love in their language but because of being asexual the experience was off putting.

For example if your language is words of affirmation, but the person compliments your body in a sexual way that could feel icky.

Thoughts? Experiences?

[Joy]

I never thought of it that way actually. I have always assumed that it is person dependent. The only one that might have thrown me off is physical touch, which isn’t mine anyway.

My top one is quality time and quality time really can apply to anything.

[Pipt]

Gillian, I’m interested in how you define love languages, care to elaborate?

[Bryan de Vantier]

I believe by “love languages” Gillian means how we express affection/romance. For instance I’m a very physical and sensual being. I love kissing/snogging, hugging, cuddling and all of that however I find sex totally repelling. In my limited experience I’ve found most aces I’ve conversed with to be adverse to these displays of affection thus I’ve yet to manage dating an asexual person(plus, y’all so damn spread out! XD). Allosexuals(or at least the ones I attract) however seem to see physical displays of affection equatable to sexual displays of affection much to my disappointment.

[Gillian]

Thank you all for your responses. I was wondering about these love languages: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch

None of these items are inherently sexual, but can be. I am struggling to find the correct words, but there is a conversation happening in my head about this.

[Galloway]

I thought you were referring to Italian or French. 🙂 joking.

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