I’m not really into labels, so any flavor / subtype / label of asexuality is fine with me. The main thing for me is that I don’t have to stress out about a friendship / relationship veering into sexual territory. Honestly I’m fine with sex *once in a while* (or never). I’m just SO tired of seeing matching questions on other dating sites like: ”How often do you and your ideal match have sex?” Me: ”Once in a while.” Them: ”Every day.”

Looking for anything from a lifelong relationship (though it’s hard to grasp that such a thing is even possible for a weirdo like me) to just a friend to message / text: (a) at the end of an exasperating work day, (b) about crazy shit going on in the world, (c) funny typos on reader boards, (d) etc.

Or maybe something in between, someone with whom to: (a) hike a new trail, (b) try a great ethnic restaurant, (c) spend a day at a Ren Faire, (d) binge the new season of The Witcher, (e) etc.

At this particular point in time it would be cool to have someone with whom to chat about making custom Ren Faire / SCA garb. I’ve made a few attempts to join various SCA groups but have always moved before I got very far. I’ve amassed a drawer-full of materials with which to make some pretty badass garb, but as with so many things, it’s just not very fun without someone with whom to swap progress / pics / ideas etc.

And certainly, if you happen to be interested in settling down in a charming farmhouse or cabin in the middle of nowhere with a good-sized chunk of land, living close to nature, and with few exceptions shunning the crazy modern sex-obsessed materialistic world, by all means send me a message! 😀

I am OVER THE MOON that I’ve found this site!! I’ve only recently discovered/come to terms with the fact that I’m not looking for a typical romantic relationship–and have only recently discovered that there ARE actually other people out there who feel the same!

I’m from Wisconsin and have just recently moved back to my home state after having been in a sort of ”journeyman” phase of of my career for the last 10+ years. I’ve lived all over the continent–when I was young, my parents bustled my siblings and me from Wisconsin to Texas to Montana, even a couple of years in Saskatchewan, Canada. In my adult life I’ve lived and worked in Ohio, Virginia, and Washington state. Haven’t decided yet whether I’m ready to stay put in WI or chase another horizon.

I’ve gotten to my happy place career-wise! Partly due to the pandemic (and partly because I’m badass at my job!) I now work from home 100% and have freedom to live where I want (as long a I have internet). But at 42, I look around and realize that, while I’ve seen a lot of cool places, it sucks not having anyone to share in making great memories.

So here I am–I’m very happy to have the freedom to try to find kindred spirits. And if I were to find someone truly special, and you live 1000 miles away–who knows, I could come to you!

First and foremost I’m a country bumpkin, a rustic, a hayseed. You can’t uproot me and plop me down in a city. Now that I have the ability to live where I want (and a pretty decent income), my dream is to find a charming farmhouse or rustic cabin way out of town, maybe with 40+ acres of land, fix it up if need by, make a garden, watch the storms roll in in summer, the snow fall in winter, and take in every breathtaking sunset.

I love finding new hiking paths with my dog, nature photography, and I want to buy a kayak and camping gear without the fear of how to take it with me in my next 1K mile move. I’m artistic/creative, although I’ve let my favorite hobbies of drawing, painting, writing, reading etc. slip over the last few years. I’m hoping a kindred spirit can help reignite my passion for various creative endeavors.

I admit I’m a bit of a crazy cat lady. I currently have four furry felines, with no intention to get more…but when they show up wet and bedraggled under the front porch it’s hard to say no. 🙂

Other interests: fantasy and scifi, renaissance faires, anime (though I’m pretty picky about my anime), thrift store shopping, freestyle cooking and baking, ethnic food, science and astronomy, stargazing, birdwatching, history, mythology and folklore. I wish I could say role playing / D&D but I never learned to play! Hoping to correct that woeful situation with kindred spirits / friends.

Looking forward to meeting you. 🙂