UPDATE as of 1/1/21: I broke up with my boyfriend and was looking for a new place to live.  A landlord whose apartment I looked at turned out to be the sweetest person.  I told him right away I was asexual, and although he is sexual, he still fell in love with me and asked me to be his partner.  We have been together happily for over 4 years and it looks to be a lifetime match.  Just want to let y’all know that IT IS POSSIBLE, even as an asexual, to find happiness with a partner!!

o   A good, nice and sweet man who also has spark, tang, piquancy, pizzazz — something in that vein — ex., dry wit, adventurousness, liveliness, word-play hijinks – a ”live wire” — to live together as life partners, share our joys and divide our woes, and enjoy the warmth, stability and security that can come with a good partnership.

o   Conversations of real substance are important to me.

o   I also have to be attracted to the person, pheromone-wise.  Nothing you can do about that, but just letting you know.

o   I am always trying to grow as a person; would like a partner who would enjoy using our relationship as a crucible for mutually-supported growth.  Or if you don’t need to grow, if you would at least support me.

o   It would be great if you liked to dance, or wanted to learn with me.  A peak experience for me was when leadership flowed back and forth between my dance partner and me.

o   Also, healthy lifestyle — or genuine striving for it, anyway.

o   My therapist encourages me to look for the most ”differentiated” person I can find, and I am trying.  I love to talk about psychology and relationships.  If you like to talk about those things we’ll have something in common right off the bat.

Ø  Recently left a sexual relationship.  Whew!

Ø  I make a conscious effort to be respectful of others, which is a bottom line for me.

Ø  ”Live and let live” is my slogan.

Ø  Love to be near my partner, ex. both of us sitting /lying in bed together, reading, on the computer, talking, even cuddling, etc.

Ø  I am quite serious and intellectual.

Ø  When it comes to movies, I prefer dramas, documentaries, true stories.

Ø  Music: ballads & standards (Cole Porter, Gershwin, Berlin), jazz & swing, old school black music (soul, funk, R&B), Latin dance music, “world” dance music, oldies rock ‘n’ roll, classical.

Ø  I love word play.  As I alluded to above, I revel in dry humor (my father is Danish, and it seems to go with the culture).

Ø  Like to be outside, and to go cycling — off- or on-road.

Ø  I like to think I have ”spark ”  or “pizzazz”, and also that I am rational and reasonable.  These latter two are characteristics I also connect with my Danish heritage.  Check out the Danish “West Wing” – “Borgen” – and you’ll see what I mean.

Ø  Big on dancing, esp. partner dancing.

Ø  Idealistic.

Ø  Frugal.  Interested in living a sustainable lifestyle.

Ø  Am right in the middle between introverted and extroverted.  I like to entertain, and would love to have a partner that enjoyed having a group of friends over —  even holding “salons”(!) — but I can only take so much socializing before I have to stop and recharge my batteries.

Ø  I have problematic characteristics as well as charms, and I’ll be honest and open about them if we get that far.  But a major problem for previous partners was that I didn’t enjoy sex, and that won’t be a problem for you!  You can email me at [email protected]