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- Looking for a
- Marital status
- Things I am looking for in a person are:
UPDATE as of 1/1/21: I broke up with my boyfriend and was looking for a new place to live. A landlord whose apartment I looked at turned out to be the sweetest person. I told him right away I was asexual, and although he is sexual, he still fell in love with me and asked me to be his partner. We have been together happily for over 4 years and it looks to be a lifetime match. Just want to let y’all know that IT IS POSSIBLE, even as an asexual, to find happiness with a partner!!
o A good, nice and sweet man who also has spark, tang, piquancy, pizzazz — something in that vein — ex., dry wit, adventurousness, liveliness, word-play hijinks – a ”live wire” — to live together as life partners, share our joys and divide our woes, and enjoy the warmth, stability and security that can come with a good partnership.
o Conversations of real substance are important to me.
o I also have to be attracted to the person, pheromone-wise. Nothing you can do about that, but just letting you know.
o I am always trying to grow as a person; would like a partner who would enjoy using our relationship as a crucible for mutually-supported growth. Or if you don’t need to grow, if you would at least support me.
o It would be great if you liked to dance, or wanted to learn with me. A peak experience for me was when leadership flowed back and forth between my dance partner and me.
o Also, healthy lifestyle — or genuine striving for it, anyway.
o My therapist encourages me to look for the most ”differentiated” person I can find, and I am trying. I love to talk about psychology and relationships. If you like to talk about those things we’ll have something in common right off the bat.
- About me
Ø Recently left a sexual relationship. Whew!
Ø I make a conscious effort to be respectful of others, which is a bottom line for me.
Ø ”Live and let live” is my slogan.
Ø I am quite serious and intellectual.
Ø Music: ballads & standards (Cole Porter, Gershwin, Berlin), jazz & swing, old school black music (soul, funk, R&B), Latin dance music, “world” dance music, oldies rock ‘n’ roll, classical.
Ø I love word play. As I alluded to above, I revel in dry humor (my father is Danish, and it seems to go with the culture).
Ø Like to be outside, and to go cycling — off- or on-road.
Ø I like to think I have ”spark ” or “pizzazz”, and also that I am rational and reasonable. These latter two are characteristics I also connect with my Danish heritage. Check out the Danish “West Wing” – “Borgen” – and you’ll see what I mean.
Ø Big on dancing, esp. partner dancing.
Ø Frugal. Interested in living a sustainable lifestyle.
Ø Am right in the middle between introverted and extroverted. I like to entertain, and would love to have a partner that enjoyed having a group of friends over — even holding “salons”(!) — but I can only take so much socializing before I have to stop and recharge my batteries.
Ø I have problematic characteristics as well as charms, and I’ll be honest and open about them if we get that far. But a major problem for previous partners was that I didn’t enjoy sex, and that won’t be a problem for you! You can email me at [email protected]
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