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January 24, 2019 at 9:52 pm #30854
That’s a fiarly short debate: the website is poorly run.November 28, 2018 at 4:03 pm #30739
i’m just straightforwardNovember 18, 2018 at 2:16 pm #30722
I got all respect for introverts. It’s an alien world, but i don’t mind having some alien friends.November 16, 2018 at 11:11 pm #30717
I’m not comfortable with being alone because i gain energy from other people (with the exception of disrespectful people, clearly) and being alone costs me more energy. I’m used to being alone because i’m not socially competent, but being alone is a hard burden for me. It’s just not who i’m meant to be.
Surving without partners, barely. At this time i have more important things to worry about like my transition but once that is done, i bet the lonelyness might feel stronger. Unless if given a chance by someone i like, of course. You never know.
When alone i can operate at maximum 10-20% of my capabilities. These days doing it alone and deliberately choosing the introvert life is kind of hip, but it’s not my thing. Saying i need others seems to be a taboo. I always get speeches that i should live for myself alone. But that’s just not how i roll.
I survive, but i only survive, i don’t really live.November 10, 2018 at 3:09 am #30704
Hey Suzanne, we were just saying each others opinions on friendly terms, don’t worry about it!November 10, 2018 at 12:04 am #30700
Well Elizabeth, i don’t let the society norm rule my life, i only said it was ‘inconvenient’.November 9, 2018 at 4:15 am #30696
I don’t particularly see any significant benefits. I’m fairly neutral to being who i am. I’m defenitely glad that sexual instincts don’t rule my life and i feel it allows me to see the world more objectively. On the other hand being seen as someone weird and mentally ill isn’t exactly convenient. I think the extremes balance each other out.October 30, 2018 at 11:45 pm #30669
Hm with me in the beginning there can be some kind of ‘theoretical’ sex drive. So only in my mind, not in my body. Nevertheless, i learned to fall for people based on other things than looks so it’s no longer hindering me, since i avoid relationships with people i’m theoretically-sexually attracted to.September 2, 2018 at 10:05 pm #30531
People have selfless desires, like caring for children whose parents died etc. That’s probably how asexuality first originated. The desire to care is stronger than the desire to procreate. How self-centered asexuals reason i can’t answer you.
On the other hand it’s not like asexuals are incapable of reproduction, they just sunconciously know it’s not necessairy and thus shift their focus on more important things. Like, almost everything. We live in a world where extinction of the species due to natural causes is extremely unlikely, therefore we do not have the need to perform reproduction to fullfill our social role. It’s not like asexuals don’t have libido either. They just evolved beyond beastly desires. Why? Because we can. A lot in evolution happens ‘because we can’.September 2, 2018 at 10:05 am #30527
if you name all beautiful things, you’ll find only a little few that have usefulness towards reproduction and thousands of things that have no correlation whatsoever. That means that either to you this world is so ugly that you only see an extremely limited amount of beautiful things, which suggests depression or either you’re just discussing for the sake of discussing. It sounds a lot like you’re trying to ‘convert’ us. And of course our gene pool cares about sciencentific discoveries and art, why else would those abilities even be in our genes. Both are things that increase our chances of survival in a non-sexual way. (art makes happy and happyness keeps the morale to survive high, discoveries makes groups of people more knowledgeable, knowledge will be carried over, etc.)
People died because of a hostile environment (wilderness, disease, etc.). Mortality rates didn’t show the curve that justifies that explanation. For that mortality suddenly had to rise from a certain age, whilst in almost all societies it was a gradual increase in mortality, not a sudden rise. Only in todays world where most dangers are eliminated you see a sudden rise in mortality from a certain age, and that is long past their reproduction usefulness, but around the time they no longer are useful for doing work. Which is a bigger contribution to survival than reproduction.
Our genes are set up this way that we can each be useful in our own ways and that’s why our genes differ and make sure not everyone is allosexual, because that would’ve likely hurt chances of survival if there were no childrenless people who could serve as 1) a backup for the high mortality rate in adults 2) do other tasks in society because they have more time on their hands. Ever since human lives in societies, our brain has evolved reapidly in such a way that we found more ways of survival than just one. That is one of the strenghts of humans, the ability to diversify, yet you want to reduce to being mere beasts.
Babies are considered ugly by most ‘except their own one’, so that’s a non-argument and even insulting towards parents.
August 30, 2018 at 8:56 pm #30521
- This reply was modified 11 months, 3 weeks ago by Vanessa the fox.
Theres millions of ways one can be useful/meaningful without any relevance to sexuality. And ach person gives meaning in their own way. I dont really see why this is even a question.August 30, 2018 at 8:52 pm #30519
I think appreciation for beauty is a reflection of humans desire to strive for the best possible things in general. Sex is just one of so many thousands of things the could be potentially influential. Reproduction is regulated by feromones, not by beauty. Allosexuals can easily be attracted to someone who is not beautiful in their own standards.
May 30, 2018 at 7:23 am #30179
- This reply was modified 11 months, 3 weeks ago by Vanessa the fox.
That’s a bummer. Ah well, then i’ll have to put the RL pictures as main picture instead.May 28, 2018 at 11:10 am #30172
Does anyone know how to update the other photos on this website? I can only upload a new profile picture, but i can not add additional photos and also do not have access to the additional photos i’ve already put on here.
May 16, 2018 at 7:55 pm #30032
- This reply was modified 1 year, 2 months ago by Vanessa the fox.
One of the issues i bump on here is that most people tend to be from the states. Though in essence i’m not against an ldr, it of course creates boundaries. But i also noticed plenty of Brits which is less far away so don’t be shy of talking to me ^^May 16, 2018 at 1:45 am #30008April 10, 2018 at 2:51 pm #29799
Well since i’m trans i’ve got lot of experience with estrogen and testosteron-blockers.
Theres nothing dangerous about it if you follow the legal path.
Of course it’s ethical, but it’s not something i would suggest anyone taking unless really necessairy. It’s not exactly a fun experience.
A higher sex drive won’t solve asexuality though, don’t be mistaken. Before my hormones my drive was high enough, i still was ace as fuck (no pun intended). It will probably only make you feel worse…
April 10, 2018 at 2:46 pm #29798
- This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by Vanessa the fox.
Somehow i can’t get people older than 22 or so :s Wheres those 30’s folks at?April 10, 2018 at 2:45 pm #29797
to answer your question, a fox witch is a witch accompanied or posessed by a fox spirit. Feelers of truth, often wrongfully gets seen as manipulators of truth. Fox spirits usually chooses humans who are broken beyond repair or close to death.April 10, 2018 at 2:39 pm #29796
Pick me pick me! Lol. But yeah it’d be awesome.